Maisie, my dog, follows me everywhere, except the bathroom. She follows me to the door and then waits patiently outside until I’m done. When I blow dry my hair, she waits in the bedroom (see above). I think it’s the noise.
Yesterday when I was drying my hair, I was surprised to see the door nudge open. Maisie poked her face around the corner as if to say, “Can I come in?”
I opened the door more and invited her in. I wanted to see what she would do.
She carefully stepped into the bathroom, made her way next to me, and sat very still while I dried my hair.
Maisie’s New Year’s Resolution
Maisie is afraid of lots of things. I think Maisie’s New Year’s Resolution was to face her fears.
She didn’t announce her resolution to the world. She didn’t put it on Facebook. She didn’t blog about it. Instead, she made up her mind to start change a behavior without telling a soul, even me.
A Lesson From Maisie
This time of year is full of good intentions.
You exclaim your resolution to the world, sign up for a gym membership and tell everyone you aren’t eating carbs any more.
There are two schools of thought on this. The first is do it. Tell the world. As John Assaraf said in a recent Facebook post, “Let them cheer you on.”
The other school of thought is to keep your resolution to yourself. Celebrate your own victories. It’s only you you have to convince anyway. If others notice, great, but you’re doing this for you.
I Choose Not To Tell
I’m of the second opinion. I know I wrote about my intentions for the new year, but I didn’t specify my goals or what they look like. That’s for me to know and you to find out.
Maisie did the same thing. She kept her resolution to herself. She quietly started to change her behavior. No fan fare.
Your Fans Or Critics
The reason I believe keeping your resolution to yourself is others may not be happy about your changes. When you make life shifts, they don’t want you to change. They like things to stay the same.
Sometimes, they sabotage you without knowing it. Perhaps it’s pulling you away from your book that you resolved to read every night. Or asking if you want to go to dinner at your favorite restaurant when you’ve just started your diet.
These acts of sabotage aren’t done with bad intent. They just want to get back to normal. You probably do this to others as well. I know I have.
Find The Right Support
If you don’t think you can accomplish your resolution by yourself, by all means find support. Join Weight Watchers, hire a personal trainer, join a gym, work with a coach or join a book club. All of these are unbiased support systems. These folks will help, support and guide you. They want you to change.
Once you find the right support, don’t go posting your results on Facebook or Twitter. Although tempting to get the kudos from your adoring fans, it’s short lived. Instead journal about your progress. Tell yourself you did a great job. It’s not about what others think, it’s about what you think.
Resolution or Staying Warm?
So take a tip from Maisie this year. Keep your resolution to yourself. When others in your life ask you why you’re acting different, just say its the new year and leave it at that.
Now that I think about it, I may have read a bit too much into Maisie’s actions yesterday as my dog trainer, Nancy Bradley, would say.
Perhaps all she wanted was to get warm. Oh well.
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