No Plans To Sabotage
You set your goals for the year. They felt doable and just right in January.
Now you’re starting to see the results. You have new clients, you’ve lost 5 pounds, you’ve been accepted into the certification program.
Check-in. How do you feel?
Success is a crazy thing. At the beginning it’s nothing but an idea. You’re happy when you think about it. When it starts to manifest, it can freak you out.
Whether you call it a fear of success, fear of change, or fear of failure, there’s one common thread, you’re afraid of what’s happening because it feels strange.
Self Sabotage – Repelling Success
Worse of all, you start to repel this success. Unconsciously you self sabotage your success. If you’re trying to lose 10 lbs, when you’ve lost 5 you “reward” yourself with ice cream. Then it spirals out of control.
In your business, you want to increase sales. You set your goals for the year then get to work. You contact new prospects, have meetings, do more presentations. Your calendar, once under control, now has very little white space. When you look at the week ahead you moan and groan about being so busy.
Not only that, you start to complain when you’re with others.
Complaining is a form of self sabotage. Just like the bowl of ice cream, it will set you back from achieving your goal.
Why Do You Self Sabotage?
Everyone has comfort zones. It feels right to to stay within its boundaries. When you start to stretch outside the zone, you create an internal feeling of anxiety that, if not recognized, manifests as sabotage.
You aren’t doing it to be mean to yourself. Your brain is trying to get you “back to where you belong.” Your new state might be better for you physically or financially, but your brain doesn’t know that yet.
What’s A Person To Do?
The best thing to do is when you open up the freezer or hear yourself complain, stop. Recognize this is anxiety. Replace the need for ice cream or complaining with the vision of you 10 pounds lighter or with your bonus check.
By refocusing on your goal, you implant pictures of the future into your brain. In essence, you’re telling your brain what the future looks like. Once it accepts this as your new reality, the stress and anxiety go away.
Don’t Give Up
Review your goals every day. Keep them in front of you. Know why you want to achieve them. Then take small steps in that direction. Soon you’ll be setting new goals and achieving them faster.