Get out and live your life fearlessly. Anita Moorjani
Imagine 24 hours of living fearlessly. I don’t meet throwing caution to the wind, but truly living 24 hours without feeling fear.
You might say, “I don’t really live in fear now so that would be easy.” That’s what I thought.
It’s More About the Small Fears
Everyone has big fears. It’s what you worry about. Will your kids turn out okay? What if you’re laid off? How well are your parents? Will there be a war? Will you get that big client?
I realize these big thoughts can dominate your life. It was, however, the small fears like what people will think if you eat that doughnut, paying a bill, keeping the house clean just in case people stop by, or worrying if you’ll make the team that make up many of your routine thoughts.
These small thoughts creep into your consciousness. Over time, they become part of your daily thought process. Sitting in the background, you don’t even notice them any more.
Anita Let Go Of Fear
In Anita Moorjani’s book, Dying To Be Me, she talks about a near death experience. Throughout her life small fears had shaped her world. She always strove to fit in, and never felt she did. After her experience, she learned, life is not about fitting in. It’s about letting go of all fear and living in love or “being love” as she describes it.
Louise Hay in her book, You Can Heal Your Life, talks about fear being one of the four top reasons people develop illnesses. By holding onto fear whether we developed them or were handed them by others, we only hurt ourselves.
How To Let Go Of Fear
Because you might not recognize the smaller fears at first, it’s easier to start with something you can name as a fear. I’ll use the example of Maisie’s training.
I feared Maisie going crazy when she saw other dogs on our walks. It stopped me from taking her places, walking during certain times or even allowing her outside.
Working with our trainer, Nancy, she brought a dog to walk with Maisie. My first reaction was to pull Maisie back. It was then I realized it was my behavior, my fear, that caused Maisie to act out.
Releasing this fear came in a couple steps.
- Recognize and own the fear. Give the fear a name or a picture. Then own it. Know it’s all about you and no one else.
- Visualize the situation. Visualize the situation that you fear. Then change the picture. Imagine you have no fear at all. It’s all working out fine. Send love to the thing you fear, for me it was the other dogs.
- Practice. Whenever you’re in the situation, go back to the good visualization. Practice living that new visualization in real time.
- Love yourself. The first couple times I had Maisie out on a walk, I didn’t prepare as much as I should. We encountered a dog. I tensed up. Maisie barked. Then I did something different, instead of telling myself I failed, I congratulated myself on trying. I didn’t judge. Instead said I loved and approved of myself. This practice was perfect in what I knew so far.
The last step is the most important because it’s where you’ll make it or break it. The typical pattern I see in people is to scold themselves after not meeting their own expectations (or others). This feeds the fear.
By not judging and sending myself love, it was like shining a light into a dark room. The fear shrunk away. I was ready for the next dog to come along in a good way. It didn’t feel like I was going into battle (fear), but instead another opportunity to practice (love).
Every moment of every day, you get to choose whether you’ll live in fear or love. The natural choice is to live in love, so choose it. Wherever you are in your journey, always choose love.