Category: Love

The Best Solutions Come From Love


“The best solutions will be found through loving thoughts and perhaps a good cup of coffee.” ~ Jen Vondenbrink

What I’ve found to be true is the best, most creative solutions have come when I’ve given up the “have to” thoughts and instead focused on loving thoughts.  When the solution presents itself, I find myself saying, “Of course, that is the right way to go.”

Loving thoughts are those that have no agenda but the good for all concerned.  In the business world, this may be called a “win-win” solution.  No one loses.  Everyone gains.

When you engage in thoughts that are not loving when trying to find a solutions, you will arrive at a very long to do list that feels overwhelming.  Literally your heart will not be in it.  As you proceed, you begin to dread each action.  Soon what seemed like the perfect solution, ends up being pushed to the side, ignored or faced with obstacle after obstacle.

I’ve seen this in my own personal life with my financial goals, weight loss or even relationships.  The more I solely focus with my head, the more off track I become.

I’ve also seen this in corporate and business goals.  At the beginning of the fiscal year, anything seems possible.  Budgets are refreshed.  Outlooks are positive. Goals are set with heads.  By this time of year, panic sets in because you haven’t looked at those goals in months.  When you do, you realize you are off the mark.  Then you spend the rest of the year trying to make up the difference.

I fall into this trap.  Every year I dedicate a notebook to the following year’s goals.  I engage my brain in what logically makes sense.  I write plans.  I write calendars.  When I look at this year’s notebook, sure I’ve accomplished some of those objectives, but the women’s retreat I’m planning for October wasn’t even on my radar.  That solution came strictly from my heart and it has been a joy to work on.

If you have a problem you are struggling to solve, grab a cup of coffee, tea or your favorite beverage.  Find a quiet spot and engage your heart in a solutions discussion.  If doing this is new, you will need to pay attention to the small whispers.  They won’t seem like much, but capture them for they are the seeds of something great.

Love Yourself

Love yourself Charlie Chaplin Quotes

Happy Upcoming Valentine’s Day to You!

This Valentine’s Day, I want you to make a special effort to love yourself, and then others in your life. So often, especially women, you go through your Valentine’s Day checklist and think of everyone except yourself.

You make sure the kids have their Valentine’s for school. You make cookies for the family or a special meal. You buy your significant other something they love. By the end of it all, you are exhausted which makes it hard to see all the beautiful things they have done for you.

This year, I want you to start your Valentine’s Day by reading this poem by Charlie Chaplin

As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering
are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth.
Today, I know, this is “AUTHENTICITY”.

As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody
As I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time
was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this
person was me. Today I call it “RESPECT”.

As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life
and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow. Today I call it “MATURITY”.

As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance
I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens
at the exactly right moment. So I could be calm.
Today I call it “SELF-CONFIDENCE”.

As I began to love myself I quit stealing my own time
and I stopped designing huge projects for the future.
Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do
and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in
my own rhythm. Today I call it “SIMPLICITY”.

As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for
my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew
me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude
a healthy egoism. Today I know it is “LOVE OF ONESELF”.

As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since
I was wrong less of the time. Today I discovered that is “MODESTY”.

As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worry
about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where EVERYTHING
is happening. Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it “FULFILLMENT”.

As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me
and it can make me sick. But As I connected it to my heart, my
mind became a valuable ally. Today I call this
connection “WISDOM OF THE HEART”.

We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born. Today I know THAT IS “LIFE”!

Winter Solstice Blessings


Flying Into Love

flying into Love

I’ll never forget my first airplane trip as a kid.  It was like magic watching the ground slip away cars and people become ants scurrying around below.

I think one of the most amazing experiences is flying during a rainy or very cloudy day.  Climbing higher through the storm you enter the clouds.  As a kid I wondered how pilots know where they are going.  At least on the ground if you drive through fog, you are on a road.  There are no roads in the sky.

Then a miracle happens.  You break through the clouds.  On the other side is a whole new day.  The sun is shining.  The sky is blue.  The only thing left of the story is a fluffy white blanket below you.

It’s not a bad metaphor for Love and Life.

Love Is Energy

According to the law of conservation of energy, energy can not be created or destroyed but can change form.  If Love is energy, it too can never be destroyed, but only change from form to form.

Each of you have your own weather system called ego.  Your ego creates turbulence in your daily life with feelings like jealousy, anxiety, and worry.  It’s easy to block out or diminish Love’s energy on these days.

Become a Pilot

But by design you are a pilot.  You can soar above the weather system of the ego and experience all of Love’s energy.  Like a pilot, you may have to learn to fly.  Once you do, you have the daily choice to live in your weather pattern, or fly above it all and live in Love.

Learning to be a pilot can be a lot of work.  The results, however, are a lifetime of peace, joy and happiness knowing you always have a place in the sun.

I like to remember even on your worst days, the sun is always shining on the other side.

Joy Filled Beginnings

I remember when my nephews were born.  Every moment of those first days were joy filled.  You couldn’t help but be in wonder as this new life squirmed in your arms.

Then it’s back to normal, the lack luster monotonous routine.

What if you woke every morning and filled it with joy before you started?  What if you remembered the joy filled moments in your life as you put your feet to the floor.

Would it make a difference?

I think it would.


“I am joy filled.  I am loved.”

The Sun Never Says You Owe Me

sun hafiz




All this time

The Sun never says to the Earth,

“You owe me.”


What happens

With a Love like that.

It lights up the whole world. ~ Hafiz

You Are Loved

you are loved

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Loved Like A Child

Remember being rocked as a child.  No words were expressed.  You knew you were loved and safe.

As an adult, you still need that reassurance.  Later in life, though, it can be hard to find those reassuring arms, especially on a normal week day.

You are your own source of comfort.

In those times, find a quiet spot and affirm, “I am loved.  I am loved. I am loved.” Say it as many times as it takes to quiet your busy brain and pay attentions.

Marvelous things will happen once the words register.  You will feel once again as you did when you were a child.  The cares of the world melt away.  Your energy rises.

The power of those three little words will change your day.

Feeling Good: The Ultimate Goal

Feeling Good: The Ultimate Goal

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The real goal in life is to feel good ~ Louise Hay

Simple words we’re all all looking to achieve.

Set feeling good as your ultimate goal, and watch all your other goals fall into place.  You want to lose weight…to feel good.  You want to grow your business…to feel good.  You want to get that raise…to feel good.  You want to write your book…to feel good.

Feeling good isn’t just about feeling pleasure.  It’s about a deep, peaceful contentment with life.  It’s easy to substitute pleasurable things to feel good, but it’s temporary.  When you set feeling good as your goal, it’s that contentment you seek.

This week focus your goal energy on taking actions that make you feel good in your professional and personal life.  At the end of the week see how much closer you are to your goals.

Let Healing Begin

Let Healing Begin

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Healing In The Midst of Craziness

After a week that felt turned upside down, Friday I had an amazing healing experience.

I was part of a wonderful drumming circle where we not only got messages for ourselves, but sent healing and compassion out to the world.  There were only a few of us in the room, yet the power and energy created was magical.

Getting Back to Normal

If you’ve been through a deeply spiritual experience; a birth, a death, a healing you know how hard it is to “get back to normal.”  I’ll never forget when my mom passed away 5 years ago, how surreal the world felt after the funeral.  The next day everyone seemed to get back into their routine.  I, however, wasn’t sure what that was any more.

I had the same experience about a year after that coming back from a retreat in Sedona.  Integrating back into the physical world was hard, like coming back from a very long vacation and feeling a bit disoriented.  All the crazy to do’s you had before the trip, don’t mean much when you get home.

That’s how I’m feeling this weekend.  Yesterday I felt lost.  What I read on social networks seemed trite.  What I saw on television very flat.  Nothing had a lot of meaning.

The Healing Process: Figuring Out Normal Again

This is normal.  It’s part of the healing process.

When you have a life changing experience, you are given the opportunity to recreate your normal.  It’s one of the only times, you naturally can change a value or priority in your life.

If you’re feeling out of sorts, that’s okay.  Know that you’re just trying to figure out what normal is.

Let Go Of What’s Not Important

Treasure this time instead of fear it.  Don’t jump back into the same routine.  This is time for you to heal more than just what’s happened in your life.  It’s a time when you can heal so much more.

If your life doesn’t allow downtime, notice how things feel.  If they feel out of place, then try to remove them.

For example I’d been wanting to give up coffee for a while, but wasn’t able to make progress.  After the events here in Boston, I just stopped.  It didn’t seem to fit any more in my life.

Notice what now feels forced.  If it was something you wanted to let go before but you couldn’t, now may be the time.

Becoming Sound and Healthy Again

Healing means to become sound and healthy again.  If that means giving up things that didn’t serve the sound and healthy lifestyle you desire, now is a good time to let go.  You’re psyche is ready.

Additional note:

I thought I would share the reaction to the healing session we had from the owner of Andeva Wellness who organized the event.

When I looked around I looked into the people that where here today. I did not see their clothes, or
hair, their possessions or even if they were male or female. Instead, I was present to who they were on
a soulful level. We had an Eagle Sore, a multi-generation of beautiful yellow light grace us, a group of
spirits flying with their white lights and the amazing presence of Jesus himself illuminated our circle. We,
as a group, intended to reach far beyond Andeva Wellness Center with our prayers and our healing and
we did. When put together as a collective whole it is amazing what can transpire. There was also a group
healing that occurred simply because it was needed in the moment. Being connected and feeling the
light work through you, but not because of you, knowing you are a vessel for what is possible, is truly
doing God’s work. When one has the opportunity to be a part of something so special your perspective
changes forever. One starts to know what is possible and creates a space for more Light and Love to
enter. I am forever grateful to be on the journey that I am on and also for all the amazing and wonderful
souls that are sent to share my journey. Continue to grow, be open and search for a soul near you today.

What Is Love?

What is love

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In my conversation with God today, I asked, “What is love?”

With all the craziness going on, I was confused.  More accurately I was afraid.  I couldn’t feel what I thought I should feel when I wanted to invoke love.  So I took it to the expert.  Here’s the response I got.

Love is only a word you’ve come to describe a sensation or feeling.  It’s much more than the four letters you’ve assigned to represent something so large.

Love simply put is the energy of creation.

  • It’s growth.
  • It’s life.
  • It’s caring for and nurturing.
  • It’s compassion.
  • It’s authenticity.
  • It’s bliss.
  • It’s awe.
  • It’s sincere.
  • It’s gentle.
  • It’s kind.

Most important, it is unconditional.  Since love is energy, it can never be destroyed.  There are no conditions in which it can not exist.

Wayne Dyer quotes A Course In Miracles:

Everything that’s love can’t be fear, and everything that’s fear can’t be love. You’re either in one or the other.

I choose love.

I am love.  You are love

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