Often – even when you believe you are thinking about something that you desire – you are actually things about the exact opposite of what you desire. In other words, “I want to be well; I don’t want to be sick.” ”I want to have financial security; I don’t want to experience a shortage of money.” ”I want the perfect relationship to come to me; I don’t want to be alone.” ~ Abraham via Esther Hicks, Ask And It Is Given
What You Think About Comes About
You’ve heard that before. You’ve tried to focus on what you want in your life; a new car, a soul mate, a thriving business, but things aren’t working out like you planned.
Could you be thinking about what you don’t want rather than what you do want?
Ask And It Is Given
You know what you want, but you are feeling the lack of it. This feeling of lack focuses you on the opposite of what you desire. For example, positive thought: “I want a new computer.” Feeling of lack: “I can’t afford a new computer.” Without knowing it every time you say, “I want a new computer” you are actually saying, “I don’t want one because they are too expensive.”
A New Lesson
I’ve read Ask And It Is Given by Esther and Jerry Hicks a hundred times. Never before did I pull out this lesson until just recently.
After my initial ah-ha moment, I looked back on my life. When I set goals and was positive about an outcome, I got exactly what I desired, and pretty quickly I might add. More often than not, however, when I asked for something I unconsciously focused on the lack behind it. In those situations I was given exactly what I asked for…more lack.
Discovering the Lack
Through this activity, I realized I’d built a habit of focusing on lack. The key to breaking a lack focused habit is to check in with your emotions.
Here’s an example. I’ve wanted an iPhone forever. However, when I thought about having an iPhone, my focus was on not having one. Even when my phone was due for an upgrade and an iPhone was an option, I didn’t get one because I came up with a dozen excuses. I now see those excuses were coming from my thoughts of not having an iPhone rather than having one.
I felt horrible during this process. This was my first clue I was focusing on lack.
Let Your Emotions Be Your Guide
I’m still learning to tap into my emotions as I set new goals, create new visions, and develop new plans. When I don’t feel good, I check in to see how I’m feeling. These feelings always point to my thoughts of lack.
Listen to your emotions. If you don’t feel good, do a check in, like I’m learning to do. When you think about your goal, vision or plan you should feel excited and passionate…like you are standing on the brink of something very exciting.
That’s when you know you’re on the right path.