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Healing In The Midst of Craziness

After a week that felt turned upside down, Friday I had an amazing healing experience.

I was part of a wonderful drumming circle where we not only got messages for ourselves, but sent healing and compassion out to the world.  There were only a few of us in the room, yet the power and energy created was magical.

Getting Back to Normal

If you’ve been through a deeply spiritual experience; a birth, a death, a healing you know how hard it is to “get back to normal.”  I’ll never forget when my mom passed away 5 years ago, how surreal the world felt after the funeral.  The next day everyone seemed to get back into their routine.  I, however, wasn’t sure what that was any more.

I had the same experience about a year after that coming back from a retreat in Sedona.  Integrating back into the physical world was hard, like coming back from a very long vacation and feeling a bit disoriented.  All the crazy to do’s you had before the trip, don’t mean much when you get home.

That’s how I’m feeling this weekend.  Yesterday I felt lost.  What I read on social networks seemed trite.  What I saw on television very flat.  Nothing had a lot of meaning.

The Healing Process: Figuring Out Normal Again

This is normal.  It’s part of the healing process.

When you have a life changing experience, you are given the opportunity to recreate your normal.  It’s one of the only times, you naturally can change a value or priority in your life.

If you’re feeling out of sorts, that’s okay.  Know that you’re just trying to figure out what normal is.

Let Go Of What’s Not Important

Treasure this time instead of fear it.  Don’t jump back into the same routine.  This is time for you to heal more than just what’s happened in your life.  It’s a time when you can heal so much more.

If your life doesn’t allow downtime, notice how things feel.  If they feel out of place, then try to remove them.

For example I’d been wanting to give up coffee for a while, but wasn’t able to make progress.  After the events here in Boston, I just stopped.  It didn’t seem to fit any more in my life.

Notice what now feels forced.  If it was something you wanted to let go before but you couldn’t, now may be the time.

Becoming Sound and Healthy Again

Healing means to become sound and healthy again.  If that means giving up things that didn’t serve the sound and healthy lifestyle you desire, now is a good time to let go.  You’re psyche is ready.

Additional note:

I thought I would share the reaction to the healing session we had from the owner of Andeva Wellness who organized the event.

When I looked around I looked into the people that where here today. I did not see their clothes, or
hair, their possessions or even if they were male or female. Instead, I was present to who they were on
a soulful level. We had an Eagle Sore, a multi-generation of beautiful yellow light grace us, a group of
spirits flying with their white lights and the amazing presence of Jesus himself illuminated our circle. We,
as a group, intended to reach far beyond Andeva Wellness Center with our prayers and our healing and
we did. When put together as a collective whole it is amazing what can transpire. There was also a group
healing that occurred simply because it was needed in the moment. Being connected and feeling the
light work through you, but not because of you, knowing you are a vessel for what is possible, is truly
doing God’s work. When one has the opportunity to be a part of something so special your perspective
changes forever. One starts to know what is possible and creates a space for more Light and Love to
enter. I am forever grateful to be on the journey that I am on and also for all the amazing and wonderful
souls that are sent to share my journey. Continue to grow, be open and search for a soul near you today.

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In my conversation with God today, I asked, “What is love?”

With all the craziness going on, I was confused.  More accurately I was afraid.  I couldn’t feel what I thought I should feel when I wanted to invoke love.  So I took it to the expert.  Here’s the response I got.

Love is only a word you’ve come to describe a sensation or feeling.  It’s much more than the four letters you’ve assigned to represent something so large.

Love simply put is the energy of creation.

• It’s growth.
• It’s life.
• It’s caring for and nurturing.
• It’s compassion.
• It’s authenticity.
• It’s bliss.
• It’s awe.
• It’s sincere.
• It’s gentle.
• It’s kind.

Most important, it is unconditional.  Since love is energy, it can never be destroyed.  There are no conditions in which it can not exist.

Wayne Dyer quotes A Course In Miracles:

Everything that’s love can’t be fear, and everything that’s fear can’t be love. You’re either in one or the other.

I choose love.

I am love.  You are love

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No Plans To Sabotage

You set your goals for the year.  They felt doable and just right in January.

Now you’re starting to see the results.  You have new clients, you’ve lost 5 pounds, you’ve been accepted into the certification program.

Check-in.  How do you feel?

Success is a crazy thing.  At the beginning it’s nothing but an idea.  You’re happy when you think about it. When it starts to manifest, it can freak you out.

Whether you call it a fear of success, fear of change, or fear of failure, there’s one common thread, you’re afraid of what’s happening because it feels strange.

Self Sabotage – Repelling Success

Worse of all, you start to repel this success.  Unconsciously you self sabotage your success.  If you’re trying to lose 10 lbs, when you’ve lost 5 you “reward” yourself with ice cream.  Then it spirals out of control.

In your business, you want to increase sales.  You set your goals for the year then get to work.  You contact new prospects, have meetings, do more presentations.  Your calendar, once under control, now has very little white space.  When you look at the week ahead you moan and groan about being so busy.

Not only that, you start to complain when you’re with others.

Stop!

Complaining is a form of self sabotage.   Just like the bowl of ice cream, it will set you back from achieving your goal.

Why Do You Self Sabotage?

Everyone has comfort zones.  It feels right to to stay within its boundaries.  When you start to stretch outside the zone, you create an internal feeling of anxiety that, if not recognized, manifests as sabotage.

You aren’t doing it to be mean to yourself.  Your brain is trying to get you “back to where you belong.”  Your new state might be better for you physically or financially, but your brain doesn’t know that yet.

What’s A Person To Do?

The best thing to do is when you open up the freezer or hear yourself complain, stop.  Recognize this is anxiety.  Replace the need for ice cream or complaining with the vision of you 10 pounds lighter or with your bonus check.

By refocusing on your goal, you implant pictures of the future into your brain.  In essence, you’re telling your brain what the future looks like.  Once it accepts this as your new reality, the stress and anxiety go away.

Don’t Give Up

Review your goals every day.  Keep them in front of you.  Know why you want to achieve them.  Then take small steps in that direction.  Soon you’ll be setting new goals and achieving them faster.

Authentic Reflection

I may not be as thin as a model,

As smart as a scientist,

As business savvy as an analyst.

But…

I am the best me there is.

What others see as flaws,

I see as beauty.

What others doubt,

I dream.

I may not meet your expectations.

That’s okay.

Your expectations are your thoughts not mine.

I’m the best me there will ever be, every day.

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Spring Forward

Spring unofficially arrived this weekend with daylight savings time.

Over the past several weeks, I noticed hints of Spring.  Birds singing in the morning.  Days staying light until after 5pm.  Sprouting bulbs.

Spring’s Difference

Spring is different than other seasons.  It’s exciting.  It’s rejuvenating.  It’s refreshing. It’s like waking up from a good dream with sunshine in your eyes.

Spring is about new beginnings.  The rest of the year is for maturing, but Spring invites you to be creative.

A Spring Forward

Better than a New Year’s Resolution, a Spring Forward has momentum.  The energy is right.  Nature conspires with you achieve your desires.  Take advantage of it.

The dreams you set in motion in January were merely seeds.  Following Mother Nature’s guidance, it’s time to tend your internal garden; to water it, give it sunlight and gleefully rejoice at the bright green shoots appearing on the surface.

Remember the seedlings of your dreams are fragile in this season.  Carefully nurture them.  Don’t expose them to the harsh criticism of your routine internal dialogue.  Instead surround them with the love and energy the require to grow.

Dance and Celebrate

Spring is the time to dance and celebrate, to be curious and daring, and to be youthful.

Don’t hold back.  Tap into the natural energy around you.  Take risks.  Then take action on your dreams.

All of this simply from changing the clocks.  Isn’t that wonderful!

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I’ve been listening closely to you and here’s a question, do you believe in yourself?

Outwardly your words say yes, but it’s what you’re saying inside that matters.  What is that?

Do you praise yourself for a job well done, or criticize for not doing better?

Do you encourage yourself to take risks, or squash those thoughts because they are too dangerous?

Do you spend all your time supporting other’s dreams there’s no time to think about your own?

Believe In Yourself

Believing in yourself is one of the most important things you can do.  Without it you become an empty shell.  Nothing seems relevant and good fortune seems to avoid you.

Try giving yourself a pep talk throughout the day.  When a negative thought surfaces, don’t pay attention, instead use that to prompt a pat on the back.

You Deserve To Believe In Yourself

You deserve all the accolades you give others.  You deserve to be loved.  You deserve abundance.  You deserve happiness.  You deserve to live your dreams every day.

So why not start today with a simple affirmation from Louise Hay, “I love and accept myself.”  Repeat that throughout the day.

What If I Make A Mistake?

If you do make what you call a mistake, notice how saying “I love and approve of myself” refocuses you back on the behaviors instead of beating yourself up. Those mistakes soon become the lessons they were intended to be rather than an excuse to make yourself feel bad.

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Being your own boss is tough.  You’re harder on yourself than any boss you’d ever work for.  Don’t you agree?

To add to your plate, you need to take care of your family and you.  24 hours isn’t enough to get it all right.

I find myself saying, “I should have…” or “I should do…”  Do you have the same dialogue?

What Does Should Mean?

I looked up the definition of should online.

“Used to indicate obligation, duty, or correctness, typically when criticizing someone’s actions: “he should have been careful”.

When you criticize your actions, you’re judging.  You’ve slapped a label on yourself, compared yourself to a standard and for most of you told yourselves how badly you’re doing.  Not a pretty picture.

What If You Changed Your Perspective?

What if you believed you were perfect just the way you are?  What if you loved rather than criticized yourself?

Love is the most powerful force on this planet.  When you open your heart to love, negativity evaporates.  Love is like the small light at the end of the tunnel drawing you toward it.

Business and Love

Some say business and love don’t mix.

I believe the definition of a successful business is when the functions of business are combined with love, respect, authenticity, and open communication.

Life and Love

In the same way, I believe a fully realized life is when you love yourself.

How do you know if you love yourself?  Your default isn’t to criticize.  You accept yourself exactly where you are.  You don’t feel the need to change yourself to fit an accepted pattern.

When you start to live consciously in love every day, miracles happen.  You are grateful for all that’s in your life.  You feel alive in the moment.

Sounds like a pretty good way to live and run a business doesn’t it.

No More Should

If you find yourself using the words should, have to, want, change them to I am, I choose to, I desire.  These baby steps will move from criticizing and judging to loving and accepting.

Are you ready to give up should?

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“How did it get so late so soon?” ~ Dr. Seuss

Expectations Create Your Experience

Why do the longest weeks seem short and the shortest weeks seem long?

It’s all about expectations.

Expectations shape and form your perception of the current moment.  Change your expectations and you change your experience.

Whether you’re facing a long week or short week as you read this, remember you shape your experience.  Will you savor the moment or waste it.

Your choice.

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…become aware that you already posses all the inner wisdom, strength, and creativity needed to make your dreams come true. – Sarah Ban Breathnach

A Packet Of Seeds

I was a t the local garden center the other day and they had tons of seeds and bulbs.  I got all excited and bought some herb seeds.  Spring is on it’s way.

When I got home, I dug out my planters from last year, filled them with potting soil, sprinkled the seeds over top and watered them.

Then I walked away.

Seeds Are So Smart

I didn’t go back and push and prod the seeds to grow faster.  I didn’t dig them up and put them in “better” soil.  Nope.  Just let them do their thing.  They’ve got it all figured out.

It’s the same with us.  You have all you need to achieve your dreams within you.

Don’t Wait for Change…Create Change

Cliche, I know, but true.  That’s what Sarah is reminding us of today.  Instead of waiting for some external force to create change, why not choose to change in the direction of your dreams.

Many people come to me when they are in transition caused by an outside source.  They are scared and confused.  The work we do together allows them to tap into the wealth of knowledge they have within.  They tap into those seed dreams and start to water them.  With time a patience they sprout new leaves and branches they never knew they had before.

It’s scary to admit to yourself that you have the power to make whatever you desire come to pass.  As Sarah talks about today, you can become complacent and let external forces create the change in your life or you can take back the reins and drive your life.

I’ve come to choose the later.  How about you?

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